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You’ve had the best five months together. Suddenly, you get distracted. You become busy with other things. You’re still in love with her but time isn’t one of the things you can give her right now. Before you know it, it’s been weeks.
One day, finally, you decide to meet her and talk. She asks if you want to end the relationship. You say, “it’s up to you.” Pissed, she tells you “Aright, it’s over.” And being the prideful person that you are, you don’t wanna look like the one on the losing end, so you say, “Okie. No big deal.” And then you part ways.
The funny thing is, you are still in love with each other. MADLY. But you are both afraid to look like the one aching for it. Since then, you haven’t heard from each other. You’ve never been in love with anyone after her. She’s in a relationship now but she’s still deeply in love with you.
Three years later, you meet again. It’s the day you’ve both been waiting for. You ask her to leave her boyfriend for you. She does.
And because you’ve always loved each other, you are both in euphoria. But as the days pass, you realize that everything isn’t how it used to be and that you’ve been in love with her memory and not with who she is now. And now, you want to end it. How are you gonna tell her?
She’s always been in love with you and it’s no secret. Your family and friends are aware of it. In fact, they have been teasing you, pairing you up with her all the damn time. She’s pretty, kind, and very likable. She’s almost the perfect girlfriend.
But you’ve been having this identity crisis lately. It is starting to dawn on you that you are gay.
But you don’t wanna be gay. You wanna be normal. You don’t wanna disappoint everyone around you. So you decide to fight it with all your might by all means possible. One of them — hooking up with her. And since she’s always loved you, she becomes your girlfriend effortlessly.
However, after one month of denial, self-loathing, and being with her, you finally admit it to yourself and make peace with being gay. How will you tell her it’s over? Will you tell her the truth?
After months of being in a relationship with him, you realize that the feeling is gone. It’s just not how it used to be. There’s no magic anymore. But he’s still in love with you. He’s a great guy. And not much has changed since you fell in love with him.
But for some reason still unknown to you, it just doesn’t work anymore. You want out of the relationship and be free. But you don’t wanna hurt him. He doesn’t deserve that. But you deserve to be happy, too. So you break it off by saying that you still love him but you don’t wanna be in a relationship — with anyone — anymore. Does that lessen the pain? Also, does that make you a bad person?